When Spike Jonze’ Where the Wild Things Are came out in 2009, I often heard, “it’s not at all what I expected”. When I asked these people what indeed they did expect, they shrugged. They didn’t know. Just not that. Which is an odd thing to apply to an adaptation of a book that’s so short, less than 350 words comprising 10 sentences over 37 illustrated pages. Perhaps it speaks to how deeply engrained it sits in many of our childhoods. Perhaps we just really didn’t know what we wanted.
I’m a big fan of understanding what a film is really going for. It’s okay to dislike something. Sometimes we prefer more explosions or better dialogue or more passionate acting. But there’s a difference between disliking something and critiquing it. Disliking something is a matter of pure personal preference. Critiquing it, when done respectfully, is looking at the goal of the filmmaking and seeing just how closely they came to succeeding.
So I read a few interviews from Jonze beforehand. I started to slowly, without realizing exactly what his movie would be like, understand what he was going for. He wanted to get inside the head of Max. He wanted the Wild Things to have that child logic of emotions, when they are big and scary and we’re unsure what to do with them. Knowing all this, I went to see it in a theater. And by the end, I was an emotional, near-tears mess. It felt like the biggest, warmest hug a movie theater could make, an embracing of the inner kid inside me. It remains to this day one of the most insightful and beautifully-conceived dramatizations of child psychology. In other words: if you want to understand children and their gorgeously violent inner lives better, watch this movie.
Mister Rogers is perhaps just as giant a cultural artifact in our lives as Where the Wild Things Are, if not more so. They’ve both been around so long. They’ve touched so many people. So when I asked people if they’d seen ‘that Mister Rogers’ movie, I always got one of two responses: “not yet, but I want to” and “it was not what I expected at all; but it was really good”.
When we think ‘that Mister Rogers’ movie, we’re likely imagining a biopic. A pretty standard linear story of the life of Fred Rogers and his inseparable creation. But if there’s anything I love more than a good movie, it’s a movie that takes a wild, risky swing. Fortunately and delightfully, A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood is both.
The first hint that it would be something different and unexpected came when the 2019 Oscar nominations came out and Tom Hanks’ Mister Rogers was nominated for Best Supporting Actor, and not in the bigger Best Actor category. Many people, who clearly had not seen the movie, were shocked. How dare they! How dare they game the odds for even a saint like Tom! But those who had seen it assured the rest of us it was no mistake. This was not the movie they thought it was. It was something far richer. And indeed it is.
The genius of A Beautiful Day’s framing device is the way it introduces our real main character, journalist Lloyd Vogel (Matthew Rhys). Mister Rogers begins his show by introducing him as one of his friends that we’ll learn about, and if it’s not clear to you why this happens, it will slowly hit you as the movie rolls on: adults are really just bodies controlled by the inner child. We may have thought all along that Mister Rogers was a kid’s television program. But it’s clear his lessons are just as applicable to adults. And it’s clear he has just as much an interest in any one person, regardless of their age. Without outright saying it, director Marielle Heller’s genius film (with a risk-taking script from Micah Fitzerman-Blue and Noah Harpster), gently acknowledges just how much we still need a Mister Rogers in our lives to remind us that we’re human, we’re doing our best, and we are still going to feel these gorgeously violent emotions and learn how to deal with them.
The older I get, the more I realize the things that hit me the hardest are rarely about the actual circumstances at hand. It’s a raw nerve that’s been touched, a deep elemental nerve that can also be considered a strong feeling I had as a child. Maybe it’s anger that came from feeling left out or alone. Maybe it’s embarrassment at not knowing what’s going on and being put on the spot. Maybe it’s feeling heard, but not understood. It could be a lot of things. But by and large all these things that bring out the biggest emotions in us come from deeply-embedded experiences we had as a child. Sometimes we fool ourselves into progress. We feel wiser. We read a lot of books, do a lot of journaling. We think, I am now an adult, dammit! And then something completely unexpected hits us in just the right, vulnerable raw-nerve part, and the facade shatters to the floor. We’re still just a kid in a grown body.
One of the best things A Beautiful Day does is the one I hoped it would do the most: demystify and humanize Mister Rogers. You would think people want him to be idolized, a living day saint. Because that’s what we need. Someone – like Jesus or Baby Yoda – far more perfect than we could ever hope to be. Something to inspire us. But when Vogel asks Rogers’ wife what it’s like to live with a modern-day saint, she’s quick to politely express how much her husband doesn’t like that framing. Being considered a saint, she says, is not only untrue but it makes someone feel unattainable. Being like Mister Rogers is perfectly attainable. He still has a temper. He just has developed, over a long lifetime, ways to deal with it.
By the end, after we’ve seen a beautiful arc with Vogel’s character, a deeply hurt inner child finally getting what he needs so forgiveness can pave the way, we’re left back with Mister Rogers. He tapes his show, wraps up his final take, and checks it on the monitor. He likes what he sees. Everyone breaks for the day and goes home. But he, the imperfect inspiration, remains behind. He walks across a darkening set and sits at a piano. He begins playing melodically before pounding out all the low keys at the same time, an exercise he previously told Vogel he does as a way to deal with the bigger, more difficult emotions. It’s a beautiful reminder that even after everything we have seen, including great joy and gratitude from Mister Rogers himself at Vogel’s journey and the new friend he’s made in him, he still is human. He still is grappling with the waves of emotions we all have inside of us. And he still, once again, is going to do his best to deal with it in a way that doesn’t hurt himself or others. He’s attainable. He’s the inspiration we need the most.